My next birthday wish will be to one day celebrate my birthday Rwandese style because here, there’s just a little bit more icing on the cake.
Let me explain.
This past weekend, I was lucky enough to be invited to a colleague’s house for his birthday, and it seems that there’s no better venue to witness how people here value the time that they spend with each other than at a birthday party.
After an introductory room full of handshakes (I think I’ve so far failed to mention the handshaking culture here) and kind offerings of drinks and food, a fellow colleague, Pedro, stood up and began to recite a speech. Although it was all in Kinyarwanda, I gathered by tone and gesture that he was talking about what kind of a person Victor – the birthday boy – is.
The speech didn’t stop with Pedro. I soon discovered that Pedro was the emcee who would introduce the next twenty minutes of speeches made by members of Victor’s family, his long-time friends, and his colleagues. They spoke of their first meeting with Victor, funny stories from the past, and the qualities that make him a good friend.
Again, I didn’t understand the details of what was being said, but the warmth and openness in a room where people, some who haven’t met each other, got to know one another through sharing their stories of Victor was truly touching.
I can’t recall any event involving people of my age group back home where a chunk of time is devoted for such sincere expression of emotions. I mean, usually birthdays when your twenty-something mean countless shots and loud dance floors.
I’ve already observed that they way people interact in Rwanda is generally different than how they do in North America. On average, I think it’s safe to say that people here make more time for each other and are not caught up with being busy. Computers suck up way less time here than they do at home and I believe this is not only an access issue, but also a matter of choice. Lunches are longer and many people have enough time to go home to eat and even take a short rest. People stroll down the sidewalk at 8 a.m. on their way to work instead of the keeping up with the bustling shuffle you face in most Canadian cities. And like I said, upon arrival pretty much anywhere you go, you shake everyone’s hand and probably exchange a few sentences about how life is. It’s so nice to spend the first ten minutes of every day greeting your coworkers.
I guess we reserve these love fests for ‘monumental’ occasions, like a 50th birthday, or a retirement party. But some good things don’t necessarily have to wait until your older. I’m definitely going to up the ante for the next birthday that comes around.
Back at Victor’s place, after “Happy Birthday” was sung in both English and French, the coffee table was pushed to the side of the room for the living room dance party that stretched long into the night.





